Dating a Consultant! - Sushmita Malakar Blog

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Dating a Consultant!

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The best way to give a closure to something that happened and is not here now is to talk about it, let it out and then make sure that it has left your system forever. I am certainly doing the same thing. Good or bad, I have some tremendous memories associated with one beautiful chapter of my life and probably letting them out - in terms of appreciations or complaints- are going to help me only.

So, I almost dated a consultant for nearly seven years. Well, he became a consultant in the last three years of that tenure but it seems like he has been that forever! When I say consultant, I mean those type of people who are always working with number, applying the various statistic concepts, making presentations and helping their clients to make the right(?) decisions.  Yes, that is their life.

Things certainly change for the two people in a relationship once they enter into a new phase of life. Same happened with my then date as he started to work in this industry. Life completely changed after he entered this consulting business. When people are working so hard, day in and day out, lack of time becomes the part and parcel of life. 

However, I never hated this part. I somehow felt that this industry gives a surprise training of being more considerate towards the people who matter in one's life. The poor consultant will give all the time that is left to make things right that might have gone wrong because of the job that sucks! Once you see your other half struggling so hard to balance everything in life you can not think of anything else but love. The profound love. And trust me, you will never complain about things. 



These people, the consultants of this type, have a very weird life. They will be surprisingly up in the odd hours of day, either travelling to office or attending "the calls". It took me a lot of time to get used to the fact that he might be just travelling back from office at 2 am in the night only to take a cab back to office the next day at 8 in the morning. Yes, so the home is just like a PG for them. 

No matter how well dressed and Cindrella-man-types they are during the weekdays, on your date weekend you will find yourself sitting across  an oddly shabby guy lost in his world of thoughts. I never felt like saying anything but shower the words filled with pity when he would look at me with his puppy dog eyes and say "I had a long week!" And for all the reasons in the world I knew that this was no excuse!

I am no expert about the time and space paradigm when it comes to the relationship theory. Time might be an issue but space, never! You will have all the space in this world to do whatever you feel like. Choose any career, go out and have an affair (no, I did not and I don't encourage that too!), be a secret agent if you wish or just be a quiet social worker, your other half would not be interfering at all. Talk about work-life balance!

Did I say time might be an issue? Oh, it surely is. They will never be on time and will always be running late. And that is just the habit that they admire. You CAN NOT, no no no, just CAN NOT change it. 

The Guilt trip. No matter how much you feel at times that they are not understanding the need to make enough time for the survival of the relationship but they are humans too. Yeah, believe it or not, they are! They will turn out to be most affectionate at the most unexpected time because, well, the guilt. Not just that, making up for it comes in different forms - handing you the credit card for shopping or planning a surprise weekend. Life is good when you are with them!

Fancy phones and laptops? Trust me your consultant bae would give  them up in no time. No matter what, their phones will always be buzzing with the messages and e-mails which require "immediate attention". Bye bye pleasant dates! 

The only fun and happening part of their lives are the Diner club and Discover discounts that they avail during the times when they ain't working. Yes, that is just sad! 

They can sleep anytime,  anywhere. If you plan to go out for a drive and you decide to drive, trust me your other half will make the best out of this opportunity and have a sound sleep. And this is not a voluntary action, it just happens with them. 

They know how to handle pressure and actually help you evolve in this area too. And who doesn't like to grow immune to things like pressure, tension and depression.

The cutest part of my journey was when I used to call him during his conference calls, which would take up almost all of his working hours, and receive a text saying "In a meeting, will call you back." This is the most acceptable promise that can come out of them. They might not keep the promise of watching your favorite movie together but this is one thing that they will keep.  He used to call as soon as he got free from the call, crib about his life and then jump onto the next call. 

And I saved the best for the last. You will have the most intellectually stimulating and most enlightening discussions with them. They are smart and they can prove it very well. They are way too convincing and will never leave a grey spot in your life. 

I don't know how it is when you are married to a consultant, but dating a consultant is pretty difficult. No matter how much you crib out it, but you will love to be a part of the lives of these kind of special creatures who dwell in this world. As they say - You can love them or hate them, but you can not ignore them! 

12 comments:

Amit Agarwal said...

Hi Sushmita!
Apart from the contents of this great blog, I loved your intro! Amazing:)

Sushmita said...

@Amit Thank you :)

Bhavikk Shah said...

Hii Sushmita
Fantastic Writeup great
Thanks for sharing
Have a great day ahead :)

Pendown M Talks Here said...

When I read all of the above, I can say Aaah dating them is no less... but yes marrying them is very difficult... U know why I say that..

Rajesh Kasargod said...


Time is Money when you are consultant and you get sucked into Rat Race .

I can surely understand what you wanna say!!! I deal with consultants regularly. And i always used to wonder .Do they have personal life? What the hell their family do that they are so sucked up for work .

Interesting Read .


Shashank Tiwari said...

I have read a few funny ones on marriage too :P Pretty much very similar with additions like "wife, scary" Bichaare consultants. sabne le rakhi h unki :D

Sushmita Malakar said...

@ Bhavikk Thank you so much! :)

Sushmita Malakar said...

@ Manjulika
I know! Marrying one is just one step further. I can only try to understand the level of difficulty :-/

Sushmita Malakar said...

@Rajesh You got some part of your question answered there. They write blogs and let their frustration and love out! :PP

Thanks for dropping by :)

Sushmita Malakar said...

@Shashank Hahahahahhaa! I agree. Har koi le leta h in bechari ki :D

Venky said...

All Consultants aint so difficult gaabu!!..:P:P

Sushmita Malakar said...

@Venkat
Oh they are! :P