Bhaiya, condom hai?


The answer to this question, if asked at any chemist shop, is yes. It has to be! Because, one it is a chemist shop. Second, annually India produces 4.5 billion condoms. But still, only about 1.5 billion condoms are sold in the Indian domestic markets.

And why is that? It is because of the deameaning and ultra judgemental stares that follow after you ask this question to the chemist. And that is exactly the reason wny nearly 2 million people in India are living with HIV and other STD's.

Enough of the numbers. No? But that is the harsh reality. And thus, I am writing about this here today.

Over the counter shopping is the most common form in India even today. You go to a chemist and ask for a condom, he will quickly grab one, put it in a bag and give it to you as if you asked him for something sinful. Forget about serving the customer right, he wouldn't even ask you what brand you need. And he will be offended if you ask him if he has got a different variant of a better brand. Hello? I am paying for it and I would pay for only what I want.

I sometime love to see that disgust on the shopkeeper's face. And if you are a girl and go out to buy a condom, you first have to wait for all the customers to leave the counter and then timidly ask for it. Try doing otherwise. Everyone will give you the most uninviting stare. If you are lucky, a creepy looking guy might just give you a smirk and even follow you for sometime.

And forget about the local chemist. Even in the hyper markets, when you just pick up the product and go to the cash counter, the guy there will definitely stop to stare at you once after he has punched the product.

Women health and sexual wellness are two taboo in our society even today. And that is so sad. Just sad.

But these are very trivial things that should definitely not stop you from indulging into something that is healthy, way more dignified than being irresponsible as a sex-partner and classifies you as a passionate lover. Trust me, the society won't change in a day, but people and market places like condombazaar.com is definitely going to help you a lot. Take your time to chose and buy what you want, without irrelevant questions being asked or eyebrows being raised.





CONVERSATION

15 opinions:

Anubhav Tyagi said...

One of the pensive posts I've read.
"Log Kya Kahenge" Words that have destroyed a number of lives in India, perhaps the World.
But are we really scared of this society? If yes, then why? has this society given us anything winsome to cherish?

Anjali Sengar said...

SSSShhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Koi hai toh nai.. Lol

happinessandfood said...

So very important to shun the shame and take care of what's important.

Mahima Kohli said...

Is it really the right thing to resort to buying condoms in private? How is that any different from rural women washing bloodied cloth napkins in private, or buying tampons in black plastic bags to avoid odd glances? Women will never be empowered if they don't take themselves seriously. Buy what you want, and buy it pointedly. Let them stare. Stare them in the eye and watch them flinch. Make them uncomfortable. If women won't assert their space, no one will assert it for them, and it will be wrong to expect any one to, either.

Sushmita Malakar said...

@Anubhav the issue is indeed pensive. And ain't you afraid of the society? I am not but I can't do away with the fact that rest of the people are not irrespective of the fact that they don't gain anything out of it.

Sushmita Malakar said...

@Anjali The horror..indeed! :D

Sushmita Malakar said...

@happinessandfood Exactly! And health is always important!

Sushmita Malakar said...

@Mahima I am not promoting buying condoms in private. No, not at all. I mentioned that if I am paying for what I want, I will take that - no matter what! But then the real picture, you and I can go out and buy a condom without marinating in shame, but that is just 2 out of 13 people. Rest of the 11 will resort to the unhealthy way of having unprotected sex.

Buying condoms in private is not what I wanted to write but buying it at convenience. If you know what I mean ;)

Sushmita Malakar said...

@Mahima I am not promoting buying condoms in private. No, not at all. I mentioned that if I am paying for what I want, I will take that - no matter what! But then the real picture, you and I can go out and buy a condom without marinating in shame, but that is just 2 out of 13 people. Rest of the 11 will resort to the unhealthy way of having unprotected sex.

Buying condoms in private is not what I wanted to write but buying it at convenience. If you know what I mean ;)

Aseem said...

Due to the fact that people are shy to ask for it, STDs of various kinds are so common in India. By the way interesting to see that there's actually an online store just for buying condoms. Maybe it's kind of perfect for a society like ours where topics like these are considered taboo.

Sweta Biswal said...

wow...it is good that you had the guts to write about this topic for I actually turned down an offer to do so. While one's personal opinion is one thing, I did not want to upset my family. Anyways, kudos to you !!

Shilpa said...

Your words are actually true! I wonder how many eras will people of the nation where kamasutra has its roots take to evolve !!!!!

Sushmita said...

@Sweta Hi Sweta! Thanks for dropping by! :)

Thank you for the appreciation. But I wold really want you to talk about it someday :)

Sushmita said...

@Shilpa I know right! We just don't want to accept the things that really matter!

Sushmita said...

@Aseem!! And I was wondering where were you all this while. Sometimes, the places like condombazaar not only give the privacy but also the convenience of choosing what we want. But as I said, I don't wish to promote secrecy while buying a condom. But that is again a personal choice :D

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